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Change your email habits, change your life

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If I had to pick one change I made in my work life that made the biggest difference, it would be how I approach email. I know from working with dozens of clients that email is one of the top issues getting in the way of writing, time management, and general peace of mind. Despite this, it also seems to be an area where many people are deeply resistant to change.

Before you even finish reading this post, some of you will be scoffing and saying to yourselves, “I could never do that.” You’ll have a list of reasons why cutting back on email is simply impossible. I sympathize and I know the problem isn’t you, but rather the structures and institutional norms we’re steeped in. Nonetheless, I want to insist that change is possible.

As a coach, I’m not here to tell you to do things the way I do them. I’d like to share with you, though, the gradual steps I took to get to a point where I check work email once a day, Monday through Friday. That’s right: once a day. And somehow, the 183-year old institution where I work remains standing.

Getting a handle on email

I’m not going to spend a lot of time describing the problem here. We all know what constant email checking brings: distraction, anxiety, trouble sleeping, lack of focus, total destruction of our carefully laid time management plans. Yet many of us feel that we have no choice but to work this way.

If checking and answering email only once a day feels as realistic as walking on the moon, you can start with baby steps. For me, it began with closing my email when I wasn’t actively checking and responding. If you’re constantly on email, here are a few other ways to begin:

Supporting habits

To makes these changes possible and sustainable, here are some of the related habits that I practice. These involve setting boundaries, managing expectations, and communicating clearly.

Mental reminders

The main thing that keeps us from making even a few baby changes is the mental game of “what if.” What if a student needs help at the last minute before an essay is due? What if I need to sign a form before a deadline? What if people are secretly irritated with me for not replying right away? What if the building is burning down??

What if, indeed? Let me assure you that someone at your institution has your phone number and in a true emergency, email will not be the communication method of choice. For all the other stuff, remind yourself regularly that:

A last word on email

Changing my email habits has helped me get more of my own writing done, enjoy my colleagues more, sleep better, and feel much less stress during the work day. Once my email time is finished, I often forget about it entirely until the next day! If you don’t think my plan is for you, that’s fine. But let me offer a challenge: try at least one of the things suggested here for one week and see if it makes a difference. I bet it will.

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